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Before you call yourself lazy this week...
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Something came up in a session this week that I have not been able to stop thinking about. My client said she felt lazy and I stopped her right there. Because I know that word. I used to live inside that word and I needed her to see what I saw when she said it. This is what I told her and I want to tell you the same thing before this week starts. You are not lazy. You are doing the kind of work most people spend their entire lives avoiding and that kind of work does not always look like productivity. It does not always look like action. Sometimes it looks like sitting with uncomfortable thoughts, questioning beliefs you have held for decades, feeling things you buried years ago that are finally making their way to the surface. That is not laziness. That is some of the hardest work a human being can do. Here is what is happening underneath it. There is a version of you that was built for survival. She learned how to shut things down, stay small, keep the peace, push through no matter what and she got really good at it. That version of you kept you safe for a long time. But now you are trying to do something different. You are trying to think differently, feel differently, show up differently, become someone you have never been allowed to be before. That is identity work. Deep, internal, rewiring-your-entire-nervous-system kind of work. And yeah... that will wear you out. That is supposed to wear you out. So here is the reframe I want you to carry into this week: When you feel like you cannot move, when the energy is not there, when you are avoiding things and your brain starts calling you lazy... Try this instead: "I am doing heavy emotional work right now." Because you are not stuck. You are not lazy. You are not behind. You are in between. In between who you had to be to survive and who you are choosing to become. That space feels messy and slow and like nothing is working but that is exactly where the shift happens. That is where your life starts to change underneath the surface before you can even see it yet. Give yourself some grace this week. You are not failing. You are in the middle of becoming. And that is the whole damn journey. PROUD OF YOU 💙 Walking with you, Leasha |
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