Happy Saturday y'all. And before I get into the usual weekend energy... I just want to be real with you today. Because that is kind of the whole point of this. Things have felt a little chaotic lately. Not the highlight reel version. The actual behind the scenes. The stuff I could easily leave out and just post the wins instead. I am still figuring out this whole entrepreneur path. Still learning how to step into that version of me. And if I am honest... there is a part of me that still slips...
1 day ago • 1 min read
Quick question for you today… When you say, “I am just tired,” do you actually mean tired? Or do you mean… “I am emotionally fried.” “I do not want to explain myself.” “I have been pretending I am fine all week.” “I feel like I am one minor inconvenience away from losing my shit.” “I have no clue who I am right now, but I have to keep functioning anyway.” Because I used to call it tired too. But it was not always tired. Sometimes it was survival mode wearing a hoodie and calling itself...
2 days ago • 1 min read
I want to show you something real today. Not theory. Not advice. Proof. She spent years showing up like everything was fine. Playing the role everyone expected. Pushing down what she actually felt. Not because she was fake. Because that is how she learned to survive. She was masking. Performing. Living as a version of herself that was built entirely around survival mode. And underneath all of it she was exhausted, lost, and waking up every single day hating the person staring back at her in...
3 days ago • 1 min read
Everyone says it like it is simple. "Just let go of your past." "Stop identifying with depression." "Choose a new story." Yeah... no. Because here is what nobody tells you: Letting go of your identities can feel like dying. Plural. Because it is never just one. It is layers. Years of them. Stacked on top of each other until you cannot tell where the labels end and you actually begin. And I mean that literally. I was a year, maybe two, into my healing. Doing the work, showing up, and making...
5 days ago • 3 min read
Ever have one small thing happen and your whole day starts to unravel? Nothing crazy. Just one thought, one shift, and suddenly you are in your head overthinking everything and you cannot find your way back out. That used to take me out for the entire day. Until I learned this. Not how to feel better... but how to interrupt it. Here is the exact 3-step reset I use: 1. Name it Not "I am anxious." Not "I am spiraling." Say this instead: "I am in FOG right now." "I am feeling anxious right now."...
6 days ago • 1 min read
It was late. Sitting in my car, engine off, lights out, just staring. This was not the first time I had felt like this. If I am being honest... I had been feeling this way for years. But this night, sometime in 2020, something was different. Because I was not just feeling it anymore. I was about to accept it. And I remember thinking: "Is this just my life now?" Wake up. Feel off. Push through the day. Come home exhausted. Repeat. On the outside I looked fine but internally I was tired of...
7 days ago • 1 min read
Most people think they are stuck. Stuck in depression, anxiety and survival mode. Like it is just who they are and that is that. But what if that is not actually true? What if you are not stuck... you are just practiced? Practiced in thinking the same thoughts, in feeling the same emotions and in reacting the same way. Over and over again, for years, until it stopped feeling like a pattern and started feeling like a personality. Because when you live in survival mode long enough it stops...
8 days ago • 1 min read
Quick behind the scenes for you today. This is what it actually looks like right now. Post-workout. Sweaty. This is me showing up on a day I could have talked myself out of it. Some days I am locked in... clear, focused, moving fast. Other days I am sitting at my computer staring at the screen trying to figure out what the hell to even say. Some days I am having deep conversations, signing clients, feeling like everything is clicking. Other days I am navigating family stuff, old emotions...
9 days ago • 1 min read
I have been thinking about a specific type of person lately. Someone who is tired of waking up every day feeling like something is wrong but not being able to name it. Someone who has tried to push through it, ignore it, or outrun it... and keeps ending up in the same place. Someone who knows deep down that the life they actually want is possible, but cannot figure out how to get out of their own way long enough to build it. If that sounds like you right now, I want to hear about it. Just...
10 days ago • 1 min read