Confession: we did not make it to the gym last night. We played pickleball, hung out, talked with friends, and by the time we got home I was just tired. So we went to bed. Old me would have turned that into a whole thing. "You are not disciplined. You are falling off. You are messing this up." You know the voice. The one that takes one missed step and turns it into evidence that you are fundamentally failing at life. But here is what actually happened... we went to the gym today. We still...
1 day ago • 2 min read
I am sitting in a booth right now waiting to play pickleball, typing this on my wife's laptop. Because I knew if I waited until we got home tonight, gym after pickleball, late night, tired... this email was not getting sent and I missed a day recently and I told myself I was not doing that again. So here I am in a booth with my wife's laptop. Pickleball in 30 minutes. And my brain still tried to talk me out of it. "Just skip today. You can do it later. No one will notice." That right there?...
2 days ago • 1 min read
I am going to keep this one short because I actually just want to know something about you. I have been pouring a lot into these emails lately... the FOG and FIRE framework, the book breakdown, the real and messy parts of my own journey and I want to make sure what I am sending is actually landing where you need it most. So I have a quick poll for you today 🤓 Which one of these sounds most like your life right now? I am exhausted and I don't even know why. I just go through the motions every...
3 days ago • 1 min read
If you are new here... WELCOME, and I mean that genuinely. Over the last couple of days 50+ of you have joined and I do not take that lightly. So let me ask you right away: what brought you here? What are you trying to change right now? Hit reply and tell me. I want to know so I can make sure I'm providing content that meets you where you are at right now. I want to build on what I shared yesterday because there is a deeper layer to it. The biggest takeaway from Breaking the Habit of Being...
4 days ago • 2 min read
Most of my readers probably don't know this about me, but I have not always been a reader. Honestly, I used to say I hated books and would never read one. I was fully committed to that position. And yet here I am, three books deep into a goal of reading twenty this year, writing an entire email about one of them. 🤫 Life is funny like that. The book is Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza, and I want to break it down for you in plain language because the ideas inside it are...
5 days ago • 2 min read
If you are new here... WELCOME. 💙 I am really glad you are here, and I mean that. Before anything else, hit reply and tell me what brought you here. Was it something you read? Something you are going through? Something you are trying to change? I read every single reply, and I genuinely want to know. I had coffee with a friend today, someone who is a few steps ahead of me in this space, and at one point in the conversation I was just being honest about where I'm at. Not performing, not...
6 days ago • 2 min read
It is 11:10 PM and I am just now sitting down to write this, because that is exactly the kind of day it has been and honestly, it feels like the most fitting way to open an email about losing track of yourself. The time just got away from me, which, as you're about to find out, has kind of been the theme lately. Here's the honest version of what's been going on. I know what I need to do. I've known for a while. The walks, the reading, the small daily things that keep me tethered to myself and...
7 days ago • 3 min read
Okay, so first things first... yesterday's email didn't happen, and I'm just going to own that completely. We got home at 1 AM and the only thing getting written at that hour was my name on the pillow. You deserved an email and instead you got silence, so here we are, making up for it today. We move. Now let me tell you about the night that made it all worth it. It was my friend's birthday, and we went to karaoke, about 20 of us, and if you know me at all, you know that social anxiety is...
8 days ago • 2 min read
I had lunch with a friend today. That sentence sounds simple. It's not. Because for most of my life, I didn't do that. Not really. I had surface-level interactions. I had small talk. I had the kind of conversations where you say "I'm good, how are you?" and both people move on without ever actually answering the question. Real connection? Sitting across from someone for three hours on a Thursday afternoon with nowhere else to be, nothing to perform, nothing to prove? That was not something I...
10 days ago • 2 min read